Wedding Guestlist Part I: Narrowing it Down

Wedding Guestlist Part I: Narrowing it Down

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guestlist was the bane of my existence for quite some time.  FH has a
pretty small family so even though we invited nearly all of his
immediate and extended family, they still barely made a dent in the
list.  As for our friends, they made up about 30% of the list.  My
family on the other hand is enormous, so figuring out who to invite
(without hurting feelings) was a monumental task to undertake.  

my parents wanted to invite everyone and their mother.  Here is an
example of one of many conversations I had with my mother:
Mom: Oh what about inviting so and so and her husband?
Me: Who the heck is so and so?
Mom: You know who that is!  That was my best friend growing up in Haiti and you’ve met her!
Me: ….when did I meet her?
Mom:  I think you were probably 8 or 9 at the time…but still you’ve met her!!
Me:  Yea, I think we’d like to limit the number of people we invite based on if I wasn’t 4 feet tall the last time they saw me.
Mom: Sigh….fine!

it took some time, my parents finally started to understand why we just
couldn’t possibly invite everyone to the wedding once I gave them some
insight into the budget.  While FH and I insisted on paying for the
wedding ourselves, our parents have graciously offered to pay for a
number of big ticket items that will ease the burden (we are paying for
roughly 60% while each set of parents are contributing about 20%.  We
have pretty awesome parents).

narrowing it down we decided that in a perfect world, we’d have 100
people at the wedding.  We will end up inviting 137 people but since
it’s a destination wedding, I imagine we’ll have a few nos.  Though with
the type of friends and family we have who have been waiting for this
wedding to happen for a long time, I think at the very least we will end
up with 100 people.

booking the venue, we also set up a room block since all of our guests
will be coming from the US.  And currently, even though we’ve only sent
out the Save the Dates so far, 44 people have already booked their hotel
room.  So excited!!

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