Invitation Wording

Invitation Wording

Image via It’saBridesLife.com

I’m
currently in the process of finalizing wording for the wedding
invitations and wanted to highlight some language we’ll be using that
may seem atypical (or are pointed out as wedding invite etiquette no-nos).
 Despite what the etiquette rules say about guests magically knowing
who’s invited by the specific names included on the outer/inner
envelope, I’ve heard (and seen) time and time again the ultimate guest
faux pas of assuming they can bring other people.  I think the
heart of the matter is that 1) many weddings do generally include a +1,
which is totally fine for other weddings but we’re trying to have an
intimate gathering where we know every person who will be celebrating
with us and 2) unless they’ve planned a wedding, most guests really and
truly do not understand just how expensive weddings are–and that
bringing additional guests is directly related to increasing the overall
cost.

So
for our invitations, we are making it as clear as possible as to
exactly who’s invited.  I wrote a whole post about how we are not
including children–we have let our guests know this via word of mouth
and also included it on the FAQ section of our wedding website.  But
just to be 100% clear, we are also including “Adults Only” on the bottom
of our invites, next to “Formal Attire”.  Apparently it’s a big
etiquette no-no to say “Adults Only” on the invite but I’m saying screw
that.  If it’s fine to tell guests what to wear (which is
acceptable in the etiquette rules), then I say it’s acceptable to tell
people it’s an Adult affair.

For
the RSVP cards, to ensure it’s crystal clear to guests exactly who from
their household is invited, we are doing two things.  First, below the
RSVP card due date, we have a line that says “Due to the intimate nature
of our wedding, we have reserved X
seat(s) in your honor” (X will be the number of people invited from their
household).  And right below that, the invited guests names will be
listed out with an “accepts/regrets” line below each for them to check
off.  If this doesn’t clarify who’s invited, I don’t know what else
will!  See the actual proofs below;

Example of the 3-person household RSVP card Photo / Digital Proof of my Order

Example of the 2-person household RSVP card Photo / Digital Proof of my Order

I
think it’s okay to be polite but firm in any of the language you choose
to include on your invites.  Just because the wedding etiquette gods
say this or that isn’t acceptable, doesn’t mean it’s something you have
to adhere to (after all, many of these rules were written decades ago
and just frankly don’t apply to modern society anymore).  It’s YOUR
wedding–don’t be afraid to make up your own rules.

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