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Ask Primpy: Should I Hire a Day-of Coordinator?

Elegant wedding at Spiaggia in Chicago, Illinois
Elegant wedding at Spiaggia in Chicago, Illinois


So what is the biggest regret couples have after their wedding day? According to a recent study, a whopping 72% of recently married couples regret not hiring a day of coordinator for their wedding day. 72%!!! Anne, a bride who got married in Connecticut last year, very much regretted not hiring a DOC and had this to say; “Day of coordination is very important. We had some issues with the venue and the buses that were out of my control that day. I realized how frustrated I was that I had to worry about some small details [on my wedding day]…”

For most couples who have never planned a wedding before, it’s hard for them to grasp how insanely busy and hectic things become in the weeks and days leading up to your wedding day. This is where a day of coordinator can save you countless hours of frustration, stress, heartache and worry prior to your wedding and on your wedding day. A DOC works for YOU and knows every single detail of your wedding day both big and small. From the officiant, to the photobooth you rented, to the special table settings from the rental company that you just MUST have on your big day, a day of coordinator makes sure all of your vendors show up on time, set everything up on time and in the case of transportation, ensures that you and your guests actually arrive for the ceremony/reception/other wedding day events on time!

You may have some questions as to why you need a DOC, so I will answer the most frequent questions we hear from engaged couples.

What exactly is a day of coordinator?

Day of coordination is a service that many wedding planners offer and typically includes key coordination between all of your wedding vendors in the month/weeks leading up to your wedding day (this service is often referred to as “Month of Coordination). This service is usually more affordable than hiring a wedding planner to plan your entire event from day one.

But my venue offers a “wedding coordinator” as part of my venue package. Isn’t that basically the same thing?

This is where most couples get confused. Unless your venue offers full wedding planning services as part of your wedding package (which is very, very rare—I only know of one such venue that offers this service), it is not the same thing. Not even a little bit! While the venue provided coordinator is there on the day of your wedding to make sure everything flows—they work for the venue and not for you.   So for example, if your photographer becomes MIA four weeks before your wedding and you’ve already paid in full, or the florist you hired all of a sudden has a shortage of the perfect blooms you’ve requested for your big day, this venue coordinator will not be the person to track your vendor down, renegotiate your contracts or find alternate vendors in case you need a plan B (and in some cases, a plan C).  This is something that you and your fiance(e) would have to do yourselves and having to deal with any potential last minute changes the month of your wedding is extremely stressful.

A day of coordinator sounds great and all, but I heard that wedding planners are super expensive, so it’s just not in my wedding budget.

This is simply a misconception–most wedding planners offer a number of different services beyond Full Planning (which does tend to be on the pricier side because of how labor intensive it is).  Many planners offer Partial Planning, Month-of/Day-of Coordination, and other custom services.  We here at This Modern Love Events exclusively offer a 3rd tier of wedding planning called Digital Pre-Planning–learn more about it here; TML Events Digital Pre-Planning.  It never hurts to have an initial conversation with a planner, to discuss your wedding planning needs and which service would benefit you the most. We always offer a free consultation if you aren’t sure where to start.

Hindsight is 20/20, which is why again, 72% of couples regret not hiring a day of coordinator. Think ahead—not hiring a day of coordinator is like trying to put on a play without a director. You and your spouse to-be are the actors and stars—it’s not your job to manage lighting, sound, and the rest of your cast!

Whimsical Wedding at Lighthouse Point Park in New Haven, CT

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This blog post has been a long time coming!   With the start of 2016, I want to relive some of the wonderful weddings I had the honor of being part of in 2015.  And what better way to start it off then with featuring one of my favorite couples to work with!  These two were the sweetest, most charming guys with an incredibly fun and warm group of friends and family.  Their wedding was SUCH a blast and I’m so excited to finally share the photos of their big day at Lighthouse Point Park!

The wedding ceremony kicked off at Christ Church in New Haven and then guests were transported to the amazing Lighthouse Point Park (also in New Haven) for the wedding reception complete with cocktails, costumes and the infamous historical carousel, which guests enjoyed all night long!

From the couple in regards to working with This Modern Love Events;

“Martine is the BEST. We really cannot recommend her highly enough. I was initially skeptical of the wedding planner thing, but I have to say that every meeting we had with her she thought of something that we had not or suggested a fix to a problem that we never would have thought of. It was crucial to have her input throughout the process. Also, setting up meetings with her was a great way to keep ourselves on schedule. I almost feel like I need to have two reviews here though because, while her services were valuable during the long-term planning and in the months leading up to the wedding, her help in the last few weeks before the wedding and her day-of services were a whole other level of awesomeness.

She is like a machine! She kept track of so many details and was four steps ahead of everyone and everything. Our actual wedding day went off without any problems, and I really believe it was primarily due to Martine’s help and guidance on the day of. We were able to just sit back and experience the day. It’s like having a genie on hand that you can just ask to go deal with some problem that’s developing or some scheduling issue that has arisen. Really great stuff. I should add in all of this that Martine’s really a pleasure to work with. She’s not overbearing or crazy, even when she’s organizing and directing all this stuff. That being said, she was also willing to play bad cop with vendors when necessary, which I am thankful for because I am not super good at that. But with us, we always felt like she was on our team – or maybe a calm and wise coach for our team. We really highly recommend Martine for whatever wedding or event you need help with. She is the real deal.”

Photography by Studio Foto.

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